3 Simple Things I Learnt From My delivery | Part #3 of 3 | Recovering Postpartum

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After months of going through a difficult pregnancy, I couldn’t wait to look into my lil angel’s eyes and forget everything that had happened in the past 9 months. I was super scared for the delivery, and frightened to the extent of asking my doctor to just give me a General Anesthesia…knock me out…and hand me the baby like a pre-ordered much-awaited online shopping order. She wouldn’t have it. And I am mighty glad that my doctor had that kind of confidence in me…something which I lacked in myself.

You know how they say, that when you look at your baby…and hold him in your arms for the very first time…your whole world changes? It’s true. Within minutes I was a mother, taking charge of another Being (previously that would’ve meant looking after a drunk buddy post partying!). Each time I had hit panic button through my pregnancy, I distracted myself by dreaming about the beautiful phase awaiting. It was all going to be picture perfect from now on. I had everything organized in my head. I had a plan. And Oh!! How.Wrong.I.Was.

The first few days, are anything but easy. The following few weeks even tougher. If it’s easy making a baby, it’s a tremendous task in keeping the baby safe, healthy and thriving when they are out. I had faced a third degree episiotomy, breastfeeding was no walk in the park, getting up through deep sleep to calm an infant > change diapers > feed > burp > put them to sleep was all getting me brain fried. I was pretty close to punching faces who came to visit me and commented, “Isn’t motherhood bliss”. No. First month is anything but bliss. Its hard work, its crap. Yes, you see your baby and you WANT to do the best for them…but pushing your mental and physical abilities to endless limits is a test that requires a lot of patience….and a LOT of support from your spouse and family.

Here’s something I think that all women should be aware of post-delivery:

1.  Breastfeeding:

BreastFeeding is NOT easy, nor does the milk come in the way you expect. Don’t give up. Try try try and push for atleast a month before you give in to formula feed. I thought I was a pro after watching all those videos on YouTube, till reality hit home. Sore nipples, no ‘let down’ for a few days postpartum, everyone telling me that my baby was hungry so give formula, trying to pump milk to see how much I’m making (which isn’t even an indicator of how much milk one is making), major backaches due to constant bending over while nursing, and other such problems mounted. Not being able to even sit for nursing (due to stitches ‘down under’) just added to the whole stress. Correct latch was a problem for a month and I suffered!! Don’t do it to yourself. You will have other things to deal with as well. Remember…

  1. Please meet lactation consultants to help you and baby get a proper latch
  2. Use nursing pillows / lotsa pillows while nursing

2.  Support System:

I’m sure your spouse is going to pitch in as much as he can. But it’s an emotional and physical roller coaster ride for us. Boys can’t imagine what is going on, even when they ‘see’ everything and are a part of the whole journey with you. Be patient with him. But also TELL him what you want done. I think that the switch-over of roles (from being a daughter to a wife, and eventually from wife to a mother), comes much easier for women than for our men. It’s all too much to take in, and the lack of sleep is accompanied by a constant state of exhaustion with a ‘zombie’ like feeling. Brace yourself.

If you are lucky to have your mom come stay with you (which was in my case as I delivered at my parents home), she is going to be your bestest friend for some time. Don’t hesitate in learning from her. But also remember that at end of the day it’s YOUR baby, and they ALL have to follow YOUR lead. A lot of changes have come from when our mothers looked after us as babies, make sure you discuss how exactly you want your baby looked after and know what kind of assistance you need.

There are also many support groups online that provide you with an incredible amount of guidance and credible amount of information. I highly recommend joining them (search Facebook/Google).

3.  Always Remember:

We weren’t born pro moms. It’s OK to make mistakes, be unsure of what to do, and to ask for help and advice, from whoever you think will help you best with the particular issue you face. Everything will be trial and error till you and baby figure out what works best for you both.

Some Do’s and Don’ts At The End Of The Day :

  • Don’t EVER be guilty about not being able to keep everyone happy. The only person you need to think about is your baby for the next few months. Don’t even bother about what who thinks what. Haters will hate, talkers will talk.
  • Do take utmost care of your health too. If anything happens to you, who will the baby depend on? Your baby needs you for her existence, for a lifetime. Make yourself priority without any guilt!
  • Do Stay happy and healthy, babies pick up on positive vibes. And remember, each pregnancy is different.

So go without any pre conceived notions. Good luck and I’m very sure it’s all going to go smooth and perfect, as did mine ❤

READ 3 Simple Things I learnt From My Delivery | Part #1 of 3 | Pregnancy
READ Simple Things I Learnt From My Delivery | Part #2 of 3 | The Labor Room

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5 Basic Tips on Handling a Newborn | First Time Parents | All You Need To Know

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If you haven’t already spent a lot of time around newborn babies, their fragility may be intimidating. But the newborn phase is one of the most cherished phases in any parents’ life. So today I’m a few basics to remember when handling a newborn. These tips are more of little lessons, I personally learned in the past years.

1)  Keep hands clean:

First things first, always remember to wash your hands or use a hand sanitizer before handling your newborn baby. We generally don’t bother much about this. But then, newborns don’t have a strong immune system yet, so they are susceptible to infection. Also make sure that everyone who handles your baby has clean hands.

2)  Carrying your baby:

Be careful to support your baby’s head and neck. Cradle the baby’s head when carrying her and support the head when carrying the baby upright or when you lay your baby down.

Be careful not to shake your newborn, whether in play or in frustration. Shaking that is vigorous can cause bleeding in the brain and even death. Try tickling your baby’s feet or blow gently on to the cheek when you need to wake her up.

Always have your baby securely fastened into the stroller or carrier whenever on-the-go. Limit any activity that could be too rough or bouncy. Your newborn is not yet ready for rough play, such as being jiggled on the knee or thrown in the air.

3)  Feeding your baby: 

Breast milk is the best you can give your child. So stick to it unless there’s a reason. Newborns do not need anything expect breast milk or formula. So do not offer water or any juice.

Newborn babies have a very unpredictable feeding schedule. They need to be fed on regular intervals, starting from eight to twelve times a day. So may be every second hour or so. Or when ever the baby demands for it.

When hungry babies will show signs of hunger such as making lip movements, sucking thumb, stirring or stretching. Don’t wait for them to get cranky and fussy, because that’s the next level of hunger.

Stop feeding when your baby stops sucking or turns her face way from the breast, it means that he or she is full. As your baby gets older, he or she will take in more milk in less time at each feeding.

Formulas are not interchangeable. Once you have started on one brand and type, stick with it. Every change in formula sets off a 3-5 day adjustment period for baby’s digestive system that can result in increased gassiness and fussiness. All changes in formula should be approved by the pediatrician.

4)  Bathing your baby: 

As long as you’re doing a good job of cleaning your baby’s diaper area during changes, two or three baths a week probably are plenty for a newborn.

A sponge bath with water is usually enough, especially until the umbilical cord stump falls off.

In the winter season, when skin is likely to become dry or flaky, you may want to bathe her even less. Whether you’re giving a sponge or tub bath, always test the water temperature using your elbow or the inside of your wrist (the water should be lukewarm). Remember hot wash can cause major burns to your baby’s delicate skin.

Always keep your supplies like towel, washcloth, shampoo and baby soap within reach before you begin bathing a newborn.

Stick with mild, unscented products formulated for babies. Do not use any homemade or over-the-counter products when it comes to a newborn.

5)  Diapering your baby: 

By the time your baby arrives, you might have already decided whether you want to cloth diaper or use disposables. Either way, check out the best deals around and have loads and loads of them stocked up much before the baby arrives.

Change diapers frequently, every 2 hours whether you are using cloth diapers or disposables or after every bowel movement. Always wipe the area gently with a clean washcloth or a disposable wipe. In case of diaper rash apply coconut oil generously all over the area and let the baby remain diaper-free for at least a few hours a day.

If you are using cloth diapers and having diaper rash, then it could be due to detergent built-up. Trying stripping your cloth diapers and use detergents that do not contain any fragrance or dye.  In case of severe rash, always see your pediatrician.

So once you have these basics down, I’m sure you be one happy parent to you little bundle of joy. And of course it does call for some extra patience and time. After all your a parent to a brand new baby. 🙂

 

** The above post, as stated is purely based on my own experience and isn’t a proven one. Always remember that every child is different. Something that worked for us, may not necessarily work for you.

Dairy and Sugar Free Annaprashan

The Annaprashana also known as annaprashana vidhi,annaprasan or Anna-prasanam, is a Hindu rite of passage that marks an infant’s first intake of food other than milk. The term annaprashan literally means “food feeding” or “eating of food”. The ceremony is usually arranged in consultation with a priest, who arranges an auspicious date on which to conduct the ceremony.

Yes! You read it right I went all dairy free and sugar free for my sons Annaprashan.

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Finally, the day arrived when I was to introduce solids to my 6 month old son. After joining a group on Facebook for Baby-led weaning I read a lot of the posts which always mentioned no milk, sugar, salt and honey for infants and I always thought that the first food that I will make for my child are definitely not going to have any of these things, not even in small quantity.

So, I called up the vaadyar (priest) of Tamil temple for an auspicious date, time and things for us to bring. He asked us to make payasam (Kheer) for the little one and bring it to temple. As, I already had in my mind that I won’t be using regular milk and sugar for the food that we going to prepare.  I made the kheer using dates and coconut milk yes and that’s how I went dairy and sugar free.

Below is the recipe for the Dairy free and sugar free Kheer

Ingredients:

  • Dates – 15-20 (pitted)
  • Rice – Pre-cooked ½ cup
  • Coconut milk – 3 cups
  • Cardamom powder – ½ teaspoon
  • Almond – ¼ cup
  • Cinnamon powder – 2 tablespoon
  • Ghee – 2 teaspoon
  • Cashew nuts for garnishing

Method

  1. Soak almonds and dates overnight in water.
  2. Cook rice as usual with little extra water so that it’s softer.
  3. Grind almonds and dates with little water into a fine paste. You can use the water in which dates were soaked.
  4. Shallow fry cashew nuts until golden brown and set aside.
  5. In the same pan add almonds and dates paste and bring it boil stirring continuously.
  6. Then add pre-cooked rice to it. Let it boil for 2-3 mins and then add coconut milk to it.
  7. Add cardamom powder to it and boil for another 10 mins.
  8. Garnish with cashew nuts and serve chilled. Please serve at room temperature to baby.
  9. Sprinkle cinnamon powder just before serving.

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This kheer can also be given to toddlers who are lactose intolerant. Also, people who are allergic to nuts should avoid almonds and cashew nuts. While making this kheer for elders you can add full fat cream and a 2 teaspoon condensed milk to enhance the flavours.

Come back soon to know how I make coconut milk. 🙂

Easy Hummus Recipe for Kids

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Off late, the girls have been enjoying their raw or steam vegetables a lot. And as a mom I have to confess that I have been spending more time searching for some easy-to-make, delicious recipes out of those veggies. Also I generally try to keep the recipes very basic yet high in their nutritional value. Saves me good amount of time and effort!
Here’s my recipe for you.

Things you will need:

  • 250 gms Chickpeas
  • 4-5 tbsp virgin olive oil
  • 1 tsp cumin seeds
  • 2 garlic cloves
  • 1 tbsp peanut butter
  • 1 tsp lemon juice
  • salt to taste
  • chopped cilantro (optional)

What you need to do:

  1. Soaked chick peas overtime. And mix them in a food processor with garlic cloves and cumin seeds to make a smooth paste.
  2. Add salt, lemon juice and olive oil and mix evenly. And that’s it!

P.S: I didn’t have Tahini at home, so I decided to add some peanut butter instead. And there wasn’t much difference in the taste. So if it’s available for you, you may just want to replace peanut butter with it.

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And my girls love it with fresh baby carrots and cucumbers. It also makes a delicious yet healthy bread spread. You can make it and store in an air-tight container for over a month. It’s super simple to make and highly nutritious. So just go and soak those chickpeas right away. And let me know if you have a better recipe for making it. I would love to learn it from you. 🙂

Thank you so much for stopping by! 😀

 

Celebrating 500+ Likes on Facebook with Mealtime Giveaway

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I’m so so happy to announce it to you that The Mommy Blog now have over 500 Likes on Facebook! I know this may not mean a great deal to you but for me it’s indeed one good accomplishment! And since you are the one who made this possible, I have decided to give the same love back to you with this little gift set so we can celebrate this together!

After thinking over many times, I thought a mealtime giveaway would be the best, given that we have at least one picky/messy toddler. This is my  attempt to make your little one’s mealtime fun and a happy one! So here’s for you our Amazing Mealtime Giveaway. Read the steps below to ENTER!

  1. Follow the blog.
  2. Share the link of this giveaway on your Facebook wall and tag one of your mommy friends along with this hash tag–> #themommyblog
  3.  Like us on Facebook and follow me on Instagram.
  4. Leave a comment below and tell me why you like The Mommy Blog. { This steps will confirm your entry}

That’s it folks! This giveaway will end on 22nd of November 2014. I will chose one winner on 23rd!

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*This giveaway is open to Indian residents aged over 18 years!*

Good luck to you! X

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HERO BABY mixed fruits with cereals (stage 2) Review

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While I was on shopping a few days back, I did not really have any idea of what exactly I was looking for my little one, I was in the baby food section, and then I happened to come across these HERO BABY jars. And of course there were a tons of flavours to further confuse ‘an-already’confused -momma’. Yet I managed to pick  – mixed fruits with cereals(stage 2).

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After carefully reading all the printed stuff on it, I decided to buy it. While we waited at the counter I wondered if my little A sitting happily in the cart would accept/reject it. I had not given him this type of food before.”What’s wrong in trying!”,my head buzzed.

On the same night we went out for some more shopping, as it was getting late and I had forgotten the feeder at home I decided to feed my little
one with HERO BABY and yes!, he eventually liked it and had it all. This baby food saved me the mess that night!

HERO BABY mixed fruits with cereals is basically a puree for babies aged over six month, as it contains gluten.

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My little one is a bit choosy when it comes to food but loved this puree, and so this product has passed the first and the major part of the test.The HERO BABY jars comes handy when I am on long trips away from home, just drop it in your purse or diaper bag and go! Plus it’s not going to eat up all the space. And as we often travel, you know how it is – travelling with the kids!

I have happily used these when I am in like super hurry and when there is no time to rush to the kitchen to make something for little A. These cute looking jars have always comes to my rescue, just pop-open the lid and give it to your baby. Since this puree comes in a small glass jars, once opened, the jar must be refrigerated and consumed within 24 hours, so open the jar just when you think the baby is ‘real’ hungry! Becaue se you don’t want to end up feeding yourself some sort of puree! 🙂

Below I have tried to list some of the features of HERO BABY jars that I have liked and checked before buying it.
It contains apple, banana, carrot, mango purees and grape-orange juices, oat flakes and rice flour. It’s 100% natural, pasteurized and vacuumed. All the materials used are approved and certified by HERO INTERNATIONAL AGRICULTURE DEPARTMENT. Doesn’t contain added colours or preservatives. Also there is no added sugar. And the best part is my baby just LOVES it.

Every baby has a different taste and so you can also try apple compote, banana mandarin pear, mixed vegetables etc.. The HERO BABY jars
offer variety of flavours. Most of the time I try to  feed my toddler with home-made items and I don’t really like the baby food available in the market but HERO BABY is an exception. It is available in most of the departmental stories and drug-stores. Do note that the price varies with the flavour. All in all I recommend this to mommies who want to rely on something absolutely safe and yummy!

Toddler food ideas

My toddler is a real fussy-eater. In fact toddlers are fussy eaters. So rather than making meals just another task of the day, I decided to make it a little more interesting. Oh I try to do it all the while but it doesn’t really work every time and even if it does work for me, it may just not work for you and your kids. But don’t be disheartened, try something else and make her enjoy what she’s eating.

There are two things that my daughter likes 1) she loves picking up food from her plate  and tossing it in to her month, on her own. 2) When ever she does this, she mostly accepts what she’s picking up. So there’s less spitting and rejection.

And so, this little idea popped my head and we are so happy it’s working wonders for us!

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The trick is super simple. You just need to cut down the food preferably fruits, veggies, toast into tiny pieces, prick them with toothpicks and serve it to your toddler! Really! That’s all you will need to do. And I’m sure your kid will definitely want to pick and pop a few more tiny pieces into her mouth!

Don’t believe me yet?? Try it for yourself!!

What are your little tricks to convince your toddler to eat on her own?? Let me know in the comments below!

Happy Mom-ing Ladies!