Simple Things I Learnt From My Delivery | Part #2 of 3 | The Labor Room

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This post is second in the series on posts I have written on Simple Things I Learnt From My Delivery. Read the first post {here}.

Every woman goes through her fair share of ‘lessons learnt’ during her pregnancy and delivery. During the 38 weeks of being an expectant mother, I faced:

  • Morning (read all day) sickness
  • Lack of stamina and exercise due to this constant eckiness
  • Miserably failing my glucose tests (to the extent I had monitor my sugar 6 times a day everyday)
  • Eventually going for morning walks in the freezing cold (and nearly having my toes fall off due to the chill)
  • Spotting and bleeding for no particular reason (my heart of course stopped each time this happened).
  • Everything coupled with the usual backaches, heart burns & constant wanting to pee.

If my pregnancy was tough, the recovery, postpartum even tougher. The only thing that went smooth was the delivery itself, something which I had been dreading since the day I got pregnant.

I was induced on midnight of 15th Feb 2015, second capsule given at 3 AM, that when I started dilating. However my contractions were still weak and I remember telling my hubby “I don’t know if I’m getting gas or if is it the real deal”.

By 6 AM, when I got 3rd dose, contractions started coming hard this time. And while the nurses prepped me, the frequency and intensity amplified by ten times. I yelled Epidural around 8 AM and finally peace prevailed in my labor room. My doctor came to check me and said I wouldn’t deliver before the afternoon, so I cheekily asked for a snack as well as took a nap. Got a rude awakening by one of the nurses around 10 AM who said I was going into labor, I could feel a pressure as versus the previous pain. At 11:51 AM, with one massive push, I had my baby in my arms…just like that 🙂

So here are some of the things I tell my pregnant friends not to worry about in the Labor room.

 1) The Machines:

 From the minute you walk into the hospital, there will some gadget or the other that will be attached to you. Some as simple as the weight and BP machine, which you are already familiar with. And then there are those that you may have only seen in the movies or on some episode of the TV series ER. Don’t panic, these are constantly monitoring a) Your heart rate, b) Baby’s Heart rate, c) Contractions – frequency and intensity. These are not just hooked up to your body in your room, but also being monitored from the nurse’s station outside. A cool thing which I was not aware of, is that almost all these machines have volume control! Incase any of the constant beeping is troubling you, they CAN be hushed up.

 2) Your Privacy:

Well, be prepared to have your modesty fly out of the window. Rest assured, everyone in that room has a ‘job’ to do, including YOU. Follow the instructions of your medical staff and just give in. Don’t sit and worry about who can see what. If anything bothers you, speak up.

 3) Walk:

 I took the wheelchair from my room to the labor room, made me feel like ‘the movies’. Realised it was a big mistake as I reached my destination. The head nurse bellowed at me “Are you sick? Why are you in a wheelchair? Walk!!”.

She also came back to shame me when I was yelling through the intense contractions, “Why are you lying down? Get up and walk around”. I can guarantee you, her pearls of wisdom made me bear the pain till the point that I could. Nothing feels better than walking and swaying and sometimes sitting on the exercise ball. So on the day, when the pain hits the roof, ask your attending nurse and walk.

4) Epidural:

 If you are open to taking an epidural, please request for one when you think you can no longer bear the pain. For some the pain is quite manageable and they go medication free. Then there are people like me who yell their lungs out and ask for epidural shamelessly. This reminds me, its ‘ok’ to yell your lungs out.

5) Skin-On-Skin:

Regardless of the way you deliver i.e. normal or through a cesarean, make sure your baby is brought to you immediately for a skin-on-skin. Your newborn bonds through touch and smell, and her senses are tuned in to respond to your unique smell and the feel of your bare skin. This experience also helps your baby transition from the fetus to a newborn. Try your best to breastfeed at that point. Some benefits of breastfeeding and information on Colostrum can be found {here}

Stay tuned for my experiences post delivery 🙂

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6 Best YouTube Channels You Should Not Miss

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I have to admit it, that every day I spend a good amount of time, watching YouTube videos, a lot of them actually. And I have been doing this for over two years now. And over time I have developed such amazing connect with these lovely vloggers and their channels that I thought it would be nice to share with you all and tell you how amazing they are.

I mostly follow a bunch of mommy/parenting channels and a few makeup/beauty channels, these are the subjects I have always held my attention. And in this post I will talk about six of my favourite and best YouTube Channels you should probably not miss.

1.  What’s Up Mom’s:

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This is probably the first on my list, for two reasons. This was the first YouTube channel that I ever started following. Second, I love the rapport between these young moms and their dedication to work. This channel was started by Elle, a mom of two. Now it’s a group of three moms who make it all happen. Meg shares kitchen tips, easy recipes. Brooke’s beautiful DIY projects and Elle does vlogs and tips videos. You should check out Elle’s Gangnam Style Parody. Their first video I ever watched, I remember husband showed it to me and we  both had a good laugh. That’s when I started following this channel.

2.  I’m A Mommy:

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This amazing channel is by Michelle, a mother to 2 toddlers and a newborn. I have been following her for a long time now. And the reason I love her channel is because she’s so real and just herself. She’s one super mom I completely adore. Plus she always patient with answering all the questions posted by her followers (me included 😉 ). I love her hauls and monthly favourites videos most.

3.  It’s Judy’s Life:

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Judy is a mom to a pre-schooler and twin girls. I started following her last year and have completely fallen in love with her vlogs. The way Benji, her husband is always helping her film the videos and backing her up every time/place is so remarkable. I mean we all need a strong support system. Don’t we?

4.  I Love Being a Mommy:

Elizabeth Rebecca, a sweet mom to two kids started this channel about a year ago. And I have started following her recently. I love the way she making her videos. They are just so beautiful to watch. Like really beautiful. I have to admit that I keep watching her videos over and over again just because I love all those subtle colours and music in her videos.

5.  Amanda Muse:

Amanda, is also a mother of two and a beauty enthusiast. I love her vlogs for her simplicity and uniqueness. I’m not comparing here. But then it’s so refreshing to find something new and exciting every time you watch her vlogs. Plus she’s such an energetic mother.

6.  Daily Bumps

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This is another channel I have started following recently. Daily Bumps is by Missy and Bryan, parents to a toddler and expecting their second child very soon. I love how lively their vlogs are. And the constant connect between this vlogy couple. They put up one video every single day, which itself says a lot about their teamwork and dedication.

It’s so inspiring to see how all these wonderful moms and dads manage YouTube, rare kids and still have a life. I’m completely addicted to these vlog channels and can’t wait to see their next videos.

And if you are like me and would love to watch some wonderful parenting vlogs every day/week, then go on and subscribe to these channels. And let me know your favourite mommy YouTube channel. I would love to subscribe to them 🙂

* This list is purely based on my personal preference and is not a proven one. I was not paid to do this post. 

 

3 Simple Things I learnt From My Delivery | Part #1 of 3 | Pregnancy

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So here’s what happened when I got pregnant – I also found out that I wasn’t in for the ride alone. Not only was a very close friend of mine expecting a baby around the same time as me, but also an ex colleague, a friend from college, one from Post Grad., one of my cousins, a hubby’s friend, alongwith our very own Duchess of Cambridge Kate, and a few other celebrities from the Indian cinema and Hollywood who were all pregnant. Suddenly, it seemed the whole universe had conspired to get pregnant together 🙂

Mostly all of us were going to be First Time Mums (FTM), and just like that, we were all facing a million doubts, a billion emotions, and only a few gazillion questions that we all thought will never get answered. Somehow, signing up with different pregnancy websites and support groups didn’t seem enough. We needed real experiences, with first hand stories.

For me, the biggest fear was not knowing. And out of all the ‘not knowings’, the biggest was of what I was going to face in the delivery room. I was about to spend the next 40 weeks of my life worrying myself sick about that one day. And no matter how much everyone told me that I will ‘forget everything when I see my baby’, it did not convince me enough to think about it any less.

Not to mention that I had also made the grave mistake of watching all kinds of birthing videos, and jumping chapters on my books to read what happens during labor. I had now managed to completely freak myself out.

I promised all the friends delivering after me that I’ll answer ALL their questions. Worrying is not good for anyone pregnant. Especially someone like me who already faced excessive hair fall and a face full of zits thanks to the lovely hormonal changes! No one needs to add on to the list of things to worry about. So here are a few directives I doled out; to ensure my fellow FTMs did not face the same predicaments.

Each week I will endeavor to elaborate each directive and bring more clarity. If you have sailed in a similar ‘worry’ boat as me, I am quite sure you will find my observations interesting:

1.  Get the right Obstetrician/Gynecologist  –

We went to the ‘first available’ on the day. Learnt my lesson. She was anything but nice. I can handle ‘not nice but super efficient’. Can not handle ‘not nice and also pretty inefficient’. Made appointment with another, and then another. Sounds crazy, but we actually went window shopping for the right doctor. I eventually had to decide between – a sterling hospital but ‘okayish’ doctor OR a perfect doc in a not so refined hospital. I then decided to go to my hometown to deliver. Again scouted around and finally found the right match…good doc (check) and a great hospital (double check).

2.  Firmly request your doctor for a Normal Delivery –

Birth via cesareans is fast becoming a money making racket across the globe. Normal is best for you and your baby. Most of the c-sections being performed are for avoidable reasons and not so complicated medical conditions, and only because higher costs are incurred when one gets the c-section done. Here’s an extremely thought provoking read about the steep rise of cesareans in India. {Here}

3.  Ask questions to your doctor –

One of my previous doctors had told me “stop reading stuff on the internet”. That sounded the alarm bells right there! It is MY body and I have the full right to not only question what you are doing, but also be fully informed on the effects, side effects, consequences for getting it done as well as the drawbacks if I choose not to get it done. On any given day we never question our doctors, just go with the flow. But in our case, there is another life involved.

Thank you very much, but I WILL read up AND question you. Buckle up. It’s not that I don’t trust the doctor, but you will be surprised the number of times their sentence has changed from “you need to get this done” to “it’s your choice as its not mandatory by WHO standards”, whenever I questioned the necessity.

Please make yourself aware and take informed decisions. Come back again to know my labour and birth story:)

 

Top 5 Pregnancy Apps For Android & iOS

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Pregnancy can be very overwhelming especially if it’s your first time. As it doesn’t last long, every mother-to-be obviously wants to make the most out of those nine months.

I’m a mother of two and trust me when I say this, the excitement of learning about all those big and small developments your unborn baby is undergoing, is just so amazing.  I when I pregnant I never shied away from having multiple pregnancy tracking apps on my phone.

You can do the same. You can track your baby’s development, time your contractions, or even pick a baby name with one of these excellent pregnancy apps. When it comes to pregnancy, there is most definitely an app for that. Here are five of my favorites.

 What to Expect Pregnancy & Baby:

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The very popular pregnancy book, “What to Expect When You’re Expecting,” has it’s official free app which includes a very good amount of information. The app has a due date calculator, week-by-week photos of your baby’s growth and development and pregnancy countdown. There are also a lots of other interesting features scattered throughout this app. For example, did you know that at 13 weeks your baby is the size of a  pea pod?

 My Pregnancy by BabyCenter:

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My Pregnancy app is by BabyCenter. It’s another free app. This app is very much similar to the What to Expect Pregnancy app as discussed above,with a bunch unique features. For example, it includes some very realistic yet scary illustrations of babies in the womb along with a number of videos on real birth. You can even manage your pregnancy to-do list and join a due date club. Also it is very reassuring to know that all the content in this app is reviewed by a medical advisory board.

 I’m Expecting – Pregnancy App & baby guide:

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This is again a  free app which includes online community forums based on the month when you are due, or on your age. It has a very sleek design and tons of helpful features have helped to make this app a favorite among parents-to-be. Using this app you can create a virtual scrapbook of baby bump photos, and even track your symptoms. I’m Expecting is very easy to navigate, and helps you keep all of your medical and personal pregnancy information well organized at one place. However, this app doesn’t include a contraction tracker, which I think is very important as you near your due date.

 BabyBump Pregnancy:

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The BabyBump Pregnancy has two versions, one is paid and the other is free. Since I already had too many pregnancy apps, I didn’t bother buying this one. I downloaded the free version and it was decent enough. This app includes week-by-week development information and also lets you keep a journal of your progress and create a birth plan for the big day. You can also connect with the other moms and discuss via social forums.

 Pregnancy Sprout:

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This is another app that has two version. The paid one costs $4 approximately. And the free version, Pregnancy Sprout Lite gives free access to the full app for a two-week trial period. The week-by-week graphics are very attractive. It has all of the basic tools  such as a kick counter, a contraction timer, hospital bag checklists and a doctor visit planner, where you can add questions for your provider. This app doesn’t have any community forums but it’s easy to navigate and a solid choice.

Pregnancy is a phase that you won’t be able to enjoy if you’re anxious about your or your baby’s health. These apps will guide you to just about any information you need. Or at the very least, they’ll explain what you need to ask your doctor and what you need to know prior to your delivery.

So while you reach there, you can spend your time finding names and keeping journal notes or sharing photos with friends and family until the time arrives. Enjoy this special time and use these apps to get the most out of your pregnancy. GoodLuck 🙂

 

4 Exciting Things Of Our Journey To Being Parents

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The Test:

June 2014 – A quick trip to the washroom, and within minutes there had been 2 beautiful solid lines on my home testing kit that said my husband and I were pregnant! Our celebration had consisted of excited talks at a supersonic high pitch, giggles that resembled the banter of school girls, and our crazy pet dog who jumped about excitedly on our bed.

To make the arrival of our little bub more comfortable, my husband and I decided to get things organized in our house and lives that very day! Lists were made, parenting styles discussed and the house rearranged to accommodate our baby’s arrival. All at 6 weeks pregnancy. Enthusiastic much? That was us.

Going shopping:

 Not wanting to waste a minute, we had head to the closest shopping centre with our ‘list’ in tow. We not only planned on doing a reconnaissance of baby items, but we intended on buying stuff as well. Unfortunately, no matter which maternity / baby store we went to, there was a clear cut division between things for ‘girl’ babies or ‘boy’ babies. Majority of them had a section for ‘newborns’, however we found them all to lean towards a certain sex, either blatantly obvious in their display, or subtly color coded and accordingly accessorized to imply the gender it’s meant for.

The lack and scarcity of ‘neutral’ (clothes, baby books etc) disappointed us, but we didn’t let it dampen our childish stupor. Onwards we continued with our mission towards the next stop – the toy shops. And guess what? You either have to turn left for boy toys and right for girls’ (‘cuz girls are always ‘right’ haha). I wondered how everything in today’s age and time became so gender oriented. Who decided that girls can’t play with remote controlled cars and boys sit with doll houses? Who said that girls shall be in everything pink and boys have to do all things blue? Suddenly we faced a big dilemma. Do we fall into this trap even before our baby is born? Is it responsible parenting on our part to mould him/her into a certain stereotype?

 2Baby Shower:

Our woes didn’t end there. Eventually, planning a baby shower was just as difficult for my sister. We were ‘those’ kind of parents-to-be who didn’t know the sex of their child till the day he made his grand appearance. However, everyone wanted to know if we were going to have a girl or a boy, mostly so they could procure gifts accordingly. And I don’t blame them, the market trends don’t make life any easier. But for parents like me who want to ensure that their child is exposed to all the colors of the rainbow and is open to all kinds toys and play, it becomes very difficult to search and choose gender neutral products. I want my child to decide what he/she likes, without being pressurized into conforming to the society’s prejudices; is that wrong?

IMG_1645The Arrival: 

 In due course, we were blessed with a healthy baby boy. But I guess there was a certain gamble involved for all our family and friends when they bought presents for the shower. He now owned everything in either shades of blue or hues of pink. There may have been a few things in yellow or green dotted about, may have.

So here are some fun facts* for you:

1. Most babies are color blind when there are born and can only see shades of grey for atleast a few weeks.

2. In June 1918, an article from the trade publication Earnshaw’s Infants’ Department said, “The generally accepted rule is pink for the boys, and blue for the girls. The reason is that pink, being a more decided and stronger color, is more suitable for the boy, while blue, which is more delicate and dainty, is prettier for the girl”. Ha!!

So for now, I make peace in dressing up my son in blue AND pink, till the day HE decides what his favorite color shall be 🙂

*source:

http://everydaylife.globalpost.com/babies-born-color-blind-7978.html

http://www.smithsonianmag.com/arts-culture/when-did-girls-start-wearing-pink-1370097/?no-ist

Reason I chose to be stay at home MOM

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There he was sleeping peacefully my little Angel…I just Love love my little baby 🙂 Isn’t he the most precious gift I can ever ask for in my life?!! Isn’t his smile makes everything possible in the World ?!! Isn’t he the best ??!! isn’t he my reason to love my self and love everyone around him ???!!
 My thoughts started flowing endlessly . There was no full stop, comma or even exclamation mark !! As if I couldn’t swallow anything..Only thing was questions and questions in my mind and heart??????
I was on maternity leave and was going to start work in two months time. Those two months now seemed to be such a short period to me on that long night.. I just couldn’t sleep and kept thinking and fighting with my own load of questions, which had no answer from my side.
Till that time I was so much prepared that I was going to start working and look after my boy too. Now it seemed like some impossible task. Then I got what I like to call as answer of my never ending questions.
YES.. I would love to be STAY AT HOME MOM 🙂 or home maker or house wife whichever name we like to call it and happily look after my little bundle of joy. And here are the reasons I chose to be stay at home Mom.

1. To be able to breastfeed:

I exclusively breastfed my boy for the first six months and started baby led weaning after six months. I wanted to continue feeding him on demand. Of course I could have pumped it and someone could have fed him while would work but I did not want to miss the special time we both spent with each other. It’s so priceless and precious.

2. To never miss a milestone:

I never want to  miss any of his milestone, it’s something I never knew I will be so keen of. But the joy to see my son achieving all his milestones, is just unbelievable. I had always visioned him to start walking and come to me with a big smile on his face! I’m still waiting for that day to come. Keeping my fingers crossed!

3.  For those cute baby things:

Is it only me who just loves baby fragrance? I have always loved how my boy smells! His hair smells, his tiny face, little hands, everything smells just so awesome. I didn’t want to miss those morning cuddles and those lovely hugs from him.

4.  To live the moment:

To live the moment, this is something he has taught me. He is so full of energy, and always ready to learn new things even if he fails so at it, in the beginning. His love for me is so pure and unconditional. Children teach us so much about life. How could I just miss those beautiful years of our lives?

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Above all, my child always wanted me, his mom to nourish him. To be with him, spend time with him doing silly yet fun things. He wanted to sleep with him, snuggle him, feed him. His life revolves around me and my life around him.
 So I wanted to make these first few years, the most precious ones of our life. I knew these initial years are going to work towards building up strong foundation for his future. Every one in the world needs someone who loves them unconditional – he is sleeping peacefully next to me. He who heard my heart beating when he was in my womb. He who loves me. He who chose me to be his mum.
I chose to stay with him. To be his MOM!

The First Five

It just feels like yesterday when we were just a couple and now we are proud parents. But if you ask me if I was ready for it, the answer is still unknown and am I enjoying the journey the answer is “yes I am very much” however it was not an easy ride for me.

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The First month

We were on our trip to London. Well, I was on a leisure trip and my hubby on a business. Leisure for me because I got to meet my friends there and her two little cubs who are very dear to me. I stayed with my friend while my husband was staying in a hotel. So, after enjoying my 3 days’ freedom and playing Kinect adventures with those kids, I finally went back to join my husband at the hotel. Was I missing him? Yes! I was… hehe.

While I was enjoying and roaming around, I suddenly realised that my periods were delayed by 10 days which usually are a week delayed always, expressed my concern to dear hubby and after loads of discussion, we agreed upon doing a pregnancy test. ‘Why were we thinking so much to take a test’? It’s because it was just a month since we had started planning for a baby and as per every one it generally takes 6 months to 1 year to conceive.

Finally after several pregnancy tests and seeing all the blue n pink lines, I finally took a digital pregnancy test, that approved I was 2-3 weeks pregnant..Voila!!

Surprised, amused, happy, confused… mixed bunch of emotions as we were planning for the baby but at the same time were too relaxed thinking it will only happen in the next 6-12 months. So that’s how I welcomed myself to “Motherhood”.

Second Month

I was in my second month or 1st trimester and the trouble had begun. I had heard about morning sickness but mine was evening which shifted to morning, afternoon and then whole day.

Due to this I wasn’t able to stand the smell of anything, not even my own. I love perfumes but even they made me puke.

Everybody kept assuring me that everything will be fine in few weeks. Even the midwife I met assured me that it’s just a matter of few weeks and I should be fine by next week.

Sigh, I kept waiting for the next week to come.

Third Month

Did I pass the puking phase? Answer is No! 😦 Couldn’t even go out on Easter weekend and alas no one was there to take care of me as I was living far away from home in UK.

The only thing that kept my spirits up was the thought there is a tiny little body growing inside me and I am doing everything for it.

While I was puking and fainting, came the time for the 1st scan. I was all anxious to see the first sight of my baby.

With our hearts pounding faster, we went for the scan and there we saw the most beautiful thing of our life ‘Our Child’

Fourth & Fifth Month

We finally announced to our friends of my pregnancy and that a little one is going to arrive soon on 6th November which was my hubby’s birthday too and that made me happier. While I was happy thinking about the baby, my sickness didn’t leave a chance to make me sad. So with mutual agreement, I decided to go to India for few weeks as my husband was supposed to travel every week for 5 days to London and I would be left with no one to take care of me. Hence, I flew, back home.

On reaching India, my health improved drastically and yes, I was able to see a little bump and that happiness can’t be described in words.

I once again congratulated myself for having you inside me and felt the Happiness of Motherhood’ 🙂